How to Hard Launch Your Soft Life
Mixin’ Mo is ready to live her a softer, more peaceful life.
How to Hard Launch Your Soft Life
Less grind, more grace. Let’s get back to who you were before the burnout.
I’m entering my soft era. Since forever, women have been carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders. We carry this weight with the expectation that we not only show up, but that we excel. Given the peculiar times that we are in, it is becoming harder and harder to be all the things to everyone else while depleting ourselves of rest, joy and true fulfillment.
I don’t know about you, but I’m done living a hard life.
If you’ve seen the #softlife trend floating around social media, it usually involves women sipping matcha, getting facials, lounging in beautiful robes, and journaling in aesthetically pleasing notebooks. And listen, I am here for all of that. But my definition of a soft life goes a bit deeper. It’s not about escapism or luxury. It’s about choosing peace, clarity, and self-preservation in a world that demands our constant performance.
It’s about a full-on lifestyle reset rooted in how we treat ourselves, how we show up, and how we protect our energy. My definition of living a soft life is about shedding all of the ideas, beliefs and systems that are holding us back from living a full life. The soft life, to me, is about taking off the hard shell that so many of us have been wearing to survive. While we still have a long way to go in advancing women’s rights throughout the world, we don’t have to sacrifice so much of ourselves to do it.
So, how do we live this soft life, you ask?
🌸 Lessons for Living a Soft Life
Living a soft life doesn’t mean living a small or passive life. It means leading with care—especially for yourself. Here are some personal lessons that have guided my own soft life era:
Honor your feelings. Being soft means letting yourself feel without apology. You don’t have to act unbothered or emotionally unavailable just to survive.
Stand in your truth. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for who you are. If someone can’t handle your authenticity, they’re not your assignment.
Know your worth. You don’t have to convince anyone of your value. You don’t need to hustle for love, respect, or approval. Your worth isn’t negotiable.
Center joy and peace. Build your life around what truly nourishes you—not what looks impressive or follows someone else’s timeline.
Pursue life on your terms. Forget the idea of the “perfect” job, relationship, or city. Choose what aligns with your spirit, not just your résumé.
Protect your boundaries. You don’t have to say yes to every event, DM, or favor. “No” is a complete sentence.
Celebrate your identity. Being a woman in this world is powerful. Own every part of who you are — your voice, your story, your magic. Show up fully. Live it. Love it. Loudly and proudly.
Step away from the noise. You don’t need to engage in every argument or correct every false take online. Protect your peace like it’s your paycheck.
Reject hustle culture. You weren’t born to grind yourself into dust. You deserve softness, stillness, and space to simply be.
Choosing softness is an act of rebellion in a world built on burnout. It’s not always easy, but it’s necessary. Whether you're rebuilding your life, reclaiming your peace, or just trying to breathe deeper—softness will meet you there.
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